in all circumstances

Thanksgiving is a popular time of year to declare all the good things in our lives, the things and experiences and people who make life sweet and good. This is much easier to do when life is, in fact, sweet and good. But what about when things aren't going so well? How do we cultivate hearts of gratitude when our plans go awry, our dreams unmet?

The past 13 weeks, 14 really if you include my week of labor (another story for another time), have been like riding a wave of emotion. Holding my sweet Pete in my arms, watching his long eyelashes float to sleep, seeing him take in all this big beautiful world, watching my husband become a father before my eyes-- it doesn't get much better than this. It is all so much more, so much bigger, so much more beautiful than I ever imagined. In these moments, gratitude comes easily and prayers of thanksgiving slip easily from my mouth. 

But, but... when labor pains come each night, keeping me awake and gripping the sofa, wondering if this is it, but fading to nothing at sunrise, how then? When my sweet boy can only sleep in contact with my body and my body hurts from so much rocking, so much sitting, and the dishes pile up, how then? When I fall hard and the boy is crying and I'm crying and it is a fracture in my fibula and I can't leave the couch for weeks, and my own healing is put on hold for every diaper change, every rocking to sleep time, every single nighttime nursing, how can I give thanks? 

I am learning things I never knew I needed to learn. In only three months of parenthood, my heart has been turned inside out, wrung out and hung up to dry. In the wringing, in the anxiety, in the pain, the Lord has been whispering, see? This is how much I love you. And He has shown me through tiny baby toes, and friends gathering round to wash and feed and carry and care. He has shown me through a baby who sleeps sweetly until morning and smiles at my voice and laughs at a very silly octopus toy. I'm beginning to see that one doesn't happen without the other, and the greatest joys also sometimes come with the greatest pain. 

Paul's charge in 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 is the cry of my heart and the measuring stick of my days. "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, and give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." So simple... and so difficult. But this is God's will. This year I am deeply thankful for a God who gives and loves so abundantly, and has unending grace for this ungrateful creature who constantly forgets to turn it back to Him in praise.

happy thanksgiving, Katie

the truth about the speed of time as a parent

As I mentioned before, my baby just turned one.

Photo credit: Kaela Salaz photography

I have so many people in my life- from family and friends, to even my (wonderful) pediatrician- telling me how quickly it happened. I nod in agreement, but in reality I think that is a funny statement. You know why?

Because it didn't happen that quickly. It happened in one year.

Photo credit: Marci B photography

More experienced parents seem to be constantly telling me how I better be savoring this time because:

"You'll blink and they will be in kindergarten."
"Time will fly by."
"They grow up so fast."
"Tomorrow they will be graduating from high school."

But I'm going to let you in on a little secret: time does not go by any faster because you have children.

The sun still rises and sets in twenty-four hour patterns, the Earth is not quickening its orbit, and there are still three hundred and sixty-five days in a year.

I hope that is a little bit of a relief for you, because as simple as it sounds, at times we start to believe that time actually does seem to be going at a quicker pace and maybe we are wasting it, not soaking it up like we should be. Of course, the sweet grandma at the grocery store telling us that it seemed as if her fifty-two-year-old was five years old yesterday is not intending to cause us anxiety, but sometimes it happens anyway. Not too long ago I had a friend tell me that she was genuinely stressed out about the rapid pace at which her children seem to be aging. It made me so sad for her!

Dwelling on the speed of time, or apparent speed of time, is not the answer. I believe the answer is to embrace it.

Embrace the moment you are in right now with your children- even if it's difficult and you want to move past it, even if you miss the stage they have grown out of, whether the clock hands seem to be spinning furiously or at a stand still. As we dive into the holidays, enjoy your time with your family, relish every second.

And remember, no matter how old your children will get and how much time passes, they will always need you to be their parent.

Here's to living in the moment,
Ashley

2013 gift guide: for him

From Cup to Cup's 2013 Holiday Gift Guide: We believe that gift-giving should be done out of joy and excitement for the holiday season, and out of love for the recipient of our gifts, rather than the obligatory consumerism that so often plagues this time of year. It is our genuine hope that this guide will be helpful in finding just the right present to bestow upon the special people in your life. 

I don't know about you, but the guys in my life are seriously hard to shop for. There are only so many carabiners (dad) or guitar pedals (husband) that I can buy. Coming up with something that they haven't asked for, but will love, is my yearly Christmas challenge. Here are a few ideas that I'm sure your sweetie, dad, or brothers will be happy to unwrap. 

For the Xbox enthusiast, bookworm or movie buff:

cozy hoodie in a billion colors, $48
Pendleton throw handmade in Oregon, $98
warm slippers to cure cold toes, $45

For the outdoor enthusiast:

Go Pro camera to film his latest stunts, $200
National parks map print to dream about his next adventure, $95

For the gadget guy:

wireless headphones to listen from anywhere in the house, $88

magnetic cord keeper for a cool and tidy desk, $40

For the aspiring photographer:

Printstagram print of his latest Instagram masterpiece, $60
iPhone lens for close-ups and fisheyes,  $70
old school Polaroid camera for nostalgia's sake, $70

For the gourmand:

home brew kit so he can play brewmaster, $40
the obsessive chef cutting board for getting all those juliennes lined up, $26
Beechers famous Mac and cheese kit for a perfect comfort dinner,  $55

What are you planning to get for the guys in your life? Anything on this list? 

happy giving, Katie

easiest ever homemade birthday banner

Sunday was my baby's first birthday party.

To celebrate we drank hot cider, ate chili and cake, and had twenty six family members over to our house.

It really doesn't matter how big your house is, twenty six people filling it up will make it feel real small real fast. Seating becomes an issue, paper plates and plastic utensils become the best option, and decorations, I believe, are best kept at a minimum. I decided the only birthday decor would be banners, put up on the wall and out of the way.

I hung a store-bought "happy birthday" banner outside the house, but I wanted something simple and homemade for inside. I needed something that was easy, quick to make, and inexpensive.

I went to the craft store with both kids, hastily picked out a couple pieces of scrap book paper with owls on them (they were colorful and sitting within quick reach at the end of an aisle), then collected ten sheets of plain paper with colors matching the owl pattern. I cut long triangles, put a letter on each one, and then hung them on twine with clothes pins, with the owl-patterned paper in between the words. I think it turned out awfully cheery.

In case you can't quite make out the lettering, the banners read: "Elijah is 5" and "Eleanor is 1".

This could be used for any quick shower, birthday, or holiday banner. How cute would one be hanging on the mantel for Christmas or New Years? There are so many scrapbook paper patterns out there, the possibilities are endless!

Happy crafting,
Ashley

my favorite gift to give + a pumpkin spice latte recipe

From Cup to Cup's 2013 Holiday Gift Guide: We believe that gift-giving should be done out of joy and excitement for the holiday season, and out of love for the recipient of our gifts, rather than the obligatory consumerism that so often plagues this time of year. It is our genuine hope that this guide will be helpful in finding just the right present to bestow upon the special people in your life. 

Coffee is kind of my best friend. 

Don't believe me? My wedding was coffee themed. My husband was a barista, and so was I for many years.

Still not convinced? My senior thesis in college was written on the health benefits of coffee. 

It is no wonder that my absolute favorite gift to give is that of coffee. I love bringing people lattes, making steaming mugs of the stuff when friends come over (particularly fellow moms), and gifting friends and family with the best invention known to, well.. to me: The AeroPress. 

The AeroPress works much like French press, only it is smaller and easier to clean, making it ideal for taking to the office, camping, or other travel.  Also, it results in a much smoother cup of coffee as compared to the French press and drip coffee due to the short duration of time that the coffee grounds are actually sitting in the hot water. The apparatus comes with 350 filters when first purchased which can be rinsed and reused (I use them each two or three times). If each filter is reused only once, that is still 700 cups of coffee you can enjoy before ever having to buy additional filters. There are also more permanent reusable filter options.

You can make a traditional cup of coffee by adding hot water to the AeroPress espresso shots, or you can create any variety of specialty coffee drinks, no fancy equipment needed.

How festive would it be to give the AeroPress with a bag of freshly roasted coffee, a fun mug, chocolate-covered espresso beans, or a homemade book of coffee drink recipes? Here is one to get you started:

Pumpkin Spice Latte

2 tablespoons pumpkin puree (not the pre-sweetened pumpkin pie filling)

1 tablespoon maple syrup or 2 teaspoons agave nectar (or more if you like sweeter drinks)

1/8 teaspoon (a hefty sprinkle) of both cinnamon and nutmeg (freshly grated nutmeg is best here)

Small sprinkle cloves

¾ cup milk of your choice

1 or 2 shots AeroPress espresso

Instructions: Put the pumpkin puree, sweetener of your choice, and spices into a mason jar. Add the espresso (you can extract the espresso right into the mason jar). Heat the milk until almost boiling (about 2 minutes on high in the microwave), and pour it into the jar. Secure the lid tightly and shake until the ingredients have combined and bubbly, thick foam has formed on top of the drink. Sprinkle additional spices on the foam if desired.

AeroPress operating instructions: grind the coffee beans of your choice to a fine grind (about 20 seconds in an average, hand-held grinder). Then insert a filter into the filter cap, screw it onto the chamber, and fill the chamber with grinds according to the amount of shots you want to make (a scoop is provided for easy measuring of 1 to 4 shots). Fill the chamber with hot water (165- 175 degrees Fahrenheit) to the number which corresponds to the amount of scoops/shots. Next, stir together the water and grounds and allow the mixture to sit for about 10 seconds. Then, insert the plunger into the chamber, and slowly plunge it down into the grounds and water mixture; this should take 20 to 30 seconds.  To clean, unscrew the cap and press the puck of grinds out into the trash can or compost. Rinse before pulling the plunger back through. Done.

Happy caffeinating,  

Ashley

Note: This entire post is my own opinion and in no way is it sponsored by Aeropress, nor do they know who I am, for that matter.

panini bar

A couple Saturdays past, we had a few friends over for dinner and games. This was not our typical dinner party, due to the fact that we had invited over a greater number of adults than children. In fact, the ratio of people over the age of twenty-seven to people age three and under was a whopping two-to-one. This was huge for us.

I was thrilled that I didn't have to work within the confines of "kid food that adults will also eat", but I did not want to be in the kitchen the entire day. I decided upon create-you-own grown-up grilled cheese: the panini bar.

The day of the get-together I was able to play with my kids all morning, go for a run/bike ride with the toddler, go grocery shopping, and prep dinner about twenty minutes before the guests showed up.

When they had all arrived and had beverage in hand, we distributed "order forms" on which they wrote what they would like us to fill their panini with (I had all the options written on a chalk board next to the table). One of our friends exclaimed "I didn't realize I was going to a restaurant for dinner!"

We (okay, the hubs) grilled the paninis up on our humongous counter top plug-in griddle, which we only pull out of storage for events such as this. (keep your oven on low and store the cooked paninis in there until they are all made so that you and all your guests can eat together. Otherwise, it's not really much of a dinner party.)

Right before everyone showed up I had (very quickly) cut out little tags and taped them to toothpicks so that guests could put their names on them and we would not lose track of which panini belonged to who (whom?) while we were cooking them. There are probably many ways to create a personal-panini-tracking system, but I threw this together fast and it worked just fine.

Dinner turned out great, and everyone raved about the meal (which they had picked out themselves, basically). I served it with a huge salad, but I think I would add a couple bowls of fun-flavored, crunchy kettle chips next time.

What do you think of this idea? Would you or have you done a panini bar for a dinner party? What options would you have added to our list? (I think cranberry sauce and artichoke hearts would also have been good... but not together.)

Happy entertaining,
Ashley

whole wheat pumpkin muffins made with greek yogurt and coconut oil

‘Tis the season, my friends.

The season for hot mugs of cider, big cozy sweaters, shuffling through fallen leaves, the smell of chimney smoke, and adding pumpkin to every conceivable recipe.

This time of year, it is difficult to ignore our pumpkin obsession. Search pinterest and you will find pumpkin fudge, pumpkin milkshakes, pumpkin risotto, pumpkin pudding, pumpkin scones, pumpkin adult beverages, pumpkin pasta sauce, pumpkin truffles, pumpkin pancakes, pumpkin cinnamon rolls... pumpkin everything.

Despite all the elaborate ways to use pumpkin, I am offering you a simple, easy recipe because it is just that good.

This recipe started as the King Arthur Flour Cookbook’s recipe for pumpkin bread. But I omitted the eggs and added some Greek yogurt. I took out the butter and threw in some coconut oil. I removed the white sugar and some of the brown and upped the spices. The result is a dense, rich, satisfying baked good with just the right amount of sweetness.

Pumpkin Muffins
makes 16-18 muffins

1/2 cup coconut oil
2 cups whole wheat flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon baking powder
1/2 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon cloves
1/2 teaspoon freshly grated nutmeg (or ground if you do not have fresh)
3/4 cup brown sugar
1 heaping cup plain Greek yogurt (I used nonfat)
1 teaspoon vanilla
1 heaping cup canned pumpkin
Optional additions: 3/4 cup dried cranberries, chopped nuts, or chocolate chips (I vote chocolate chips, but that's just me)

 Preheat your oven to 375 degrees and line a muffin pan with liners or coat with cooking spray.

Melt coconut oil on the stove top in a small sauce pan over medium heat. Whisk the dry ingredients (flour through nutmeg) in a bowl.

In a separate bowl, whisk together the sugar, yogurt, vanilla, and pumpkin. Pour in the melted coconut oil and whisk well to combine. Add the dry ingredients and stir until combined well. Stir in any added ingredients, if using.

Spoon the batter to the top of the muffin liners and bake for 20-24 minutes, inserting a toothpick to ensure they are baked through. Cool on a wire rack for a few minutes before removing the muffins from the tin. Repeat with remaining batter.

Store in an airtight container for up to a week if they even last that long.

Enjoy!
Ashley